As I sit here and write this post, all about 5 ways to get out of your own way, I’m laughing at the irony in it all. Even writing this post required me to get out of my own way. In reality, it’s 10 pm as I type this, and after working all day, my brain is like…”maybe we should just watch Netflix instead…yeah?”
As tempting as Netflix is, I promised myself that I would outline this post today, and during an extra-awesomely scheduled week, this is the time that I had to do it, so here I am!
Self-sabotage, getting in your own way…whatever it is that you want to call it, the struggle can be REAL.
If you think back over your life, how many times have you gotten in your own way, and stopped yourself from achieving whatever it is that you thought that you wanted?
Trust me, I know how EASY it is for our brains to come up with excuses, but I also know how accomplished I feel when I go after my goals and I don’t let anything stop me. As with most lessons, I’ve learned this the hard way, and I’m continuing to learn it every single day.
I deeply believe that we aren’t here to be mediocre. We’re here to THRIVE. We’re also often the first ones to stop ourselves from achieving our own greatness.
Here are just a few examples of how I got out of my own way:
Whether it was changing my diet, which ultimately kicked off my journey to fully healing my body, beginning my athletic training, starting my business and blog…I did it ALL when I was scared and felt like I didn’t know what I was even doing.
The last thing I wanted to do was change my diet, but deep down, I wanted my health back more than anything. With A LOT of trial and error, I’ve figured out what works best for my body, which is what helped to create the vibrant health that I have today!
I was terrified of the obstacle course training that I now do, and I started with next to nothing upper-body strength, but I was also tired of being told what I wasn’t capable of, so I got out of my own way and worked my way up from the bottom.
I had NO idea how to start a business or even a blog for that matter, and figuring out technology makes my head spin, but I went for it anyway. Step by step, and one YouTube tutorial at a time, and I’ve figured it out…and I’m still figuring it out with each new day.
5 Ways to Get Out of Your Own Way:
Write it Out
One of the biggest things that I do to get out of my own way is to list out everything that I want to do, and then every obstacle that stands in the way. As I’ve learned, most obstacles are created in my mind and are really just an excuse. Writing it out makes it easier for me to break down my goals into much smaller, more manageable steps.
Write out what it is that you want, and WHY you want it. Get real with yourself – this is a no judgment zone and a place that you can write out your biggest dreams.
My why for doing everything that I do is SO much bigger than any excuse that my mind can come up with, and this is what continues to propel me forward, especially on the days where it gets reallyyy challenging.
Surround Yourself With the Best
I’m a BIG believer that the company that you keep can determine much of who you become. If you’re surrounded in constant negativity and people who bring themselves or others down, then it’s going to be that much harder for you to go after what you truly want.
I get how hard it is to let go of friends that you’ve had forever, and setting boundaries, especially when it comes to family. My best advice is to go less often and stay for shorter amounts of time.
The next time that you see your friends/family members, pay close attention to how you feel after leaving them. Are you energized and ready to tackle your goals, or are you drained and feeling helpless? Those feelings are some of the most important things that you can pay attention to.
For me, the limiting beliefs came from the doctors that told me that I wouldn’t heal and that I needed to accept my life for what it was. While I know that their words were well-meaning, because they didn’t want me to suffer anymore, I also I realized that I had a goal to become the healthiest version of myself that I’ve ever been, and those doctors weren’t going to help get me there. So, I changed doctors, and I now see a functional practitioner who supports my health goals and never limits what I’m capable of.
Practice, Practice, Practice
One thing that I’ve learned is that practice is EVERYTHING. Back when I first changed my diet, it was a straight up practice, until over time, it became second nature. This is how any new habit is formed, it has to be practiced over and over until it becomes routine.
This is all a practice. Life is a practice. I struggle and I fall, but I know that the more that I keep rolling with it, the faster I’ll catch myself each time.
Consistency is pretty much everything. When I’m consistent with any changes that I want to make in my life, over time, it becomes easier and easier. Being consistent with my business, my diet, my health, my training…all of it has led me to where I am today.
Let go of Failure
Last fall I went through a period where I felt like I couldn’t keep up with my business. It felt like no matter how hard I tried, I was constantly failing. Most of this came from the extremely high standards that I hold myself to, but it was still tough. As I talked about this with my husband, Mike, he said something that shifted everything – that I felt like I was failing, because I was actually succeeding.
It was one of those lightbulb moments for me. This is so true for so many of us – in order to even feel like we’re failing, we have to be at least trying something. I knew deep down that I was giving it my very best effort, and so I instead focused on just how far I’ve come.
To even be trying something new means that you’re making progress, even if it doesn’t feel like it just yet.
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